The past, present and future…while each are all individuals, none will not exist without the other. Without yesterday, there won’t be a today and without a today, there won’t be a tomorrow. Our friendships, relationships, views, values, have all been influenced by our past. Even who we are, has a great deal of what we experienced and who we intend to be. Everything is intertwined in our truth, what the world and society has taught us and what we want to build and identify as our own. But if you focus too much on the past or the future, somehow the present becomes a burden and hard to enjoy.
If you are depressed, then you are living in the past. This is so true. We spend so much time reminiscing, wondering how we could have done things better. Hating and blaming ourselves and others in the process. Hiding behind pain and hurt, refusing to let go, refusing to forgive and set ourselves free and in return hurting other people. If you live in the past, then you are setting yourself up for doom. We always need to keep that in mind. The past needs to remain in the past but what we shouldn’t leave there are the lessons we learned. Accept what has happened but never forget what it taught you. Carry all the experiences, be better. What you shouldn’t do is carry hurt and pain, disappointments, heartbreaks, death, loss. Life is so much more than what happened. It’s what you make of it. Same thing with our interactions with people. When someone confides to us about who they used to be and what they did, we should never bring it back to make them feel bad about it especially if they are trying to be better people. Learn to accept those hard truths but never let it define who you are or can be. The past is just is stepping stone to the present and future. It is not the defining reason to our nature so walk away from what hinders you and leave the past where it needs to be left.
If you are anxious, then you are living in the future. We can’t predict the future and sometimes what we think may work, actually won’t. All we can ever do is prepare for it by making the right and best choices, not the easiest ones. Worrying won’t change a thing. Memories are the key not to the past but to the future. Work for it now and learn to love and accept people for who they are and not what they can be because they may take a longer time reaching that potential and you’ll end up being hurt because you kept an image of someone they weren’t. The future is tomorrow so why worry so much about it? It’s yet in your power so the time is now!
If you are at peace, then you are living in the present. The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness. There is no better time to live than now. There is no better time to shape your future and who you will be than now. This particular moment is what matters. So be present. Breathe. Take your time, choose wisely, love passionately and make every moment count. Happiness is not something you postpone for later on. What if you don’t get to see tomorrow? The present is the point where you touch eternity for whatever happens now, shapes all your decisions. Be intentional.
I’m learning how to let go and free myself from all anxiety and worry and focus more on the present. There are many things I can’t change but all I can do is work on being a better person. I pray we all learn from our past, make the most of the now and let the future handle itself. Have a great day.