Regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It is your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.
Love is such a complex topic. One will direct you to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.”
Reading this, you’ll think it’s an ABC thing but when life and reality hits you, you realize it takes more than just words and Bible verses to live by. You need discipline, commitment, patience, understanding etc but it’s not impossible.
By definition, good means “that which is morally right; righteousness” or “having the qualities for a particular role.” And while these are pretty basic, we all have our own definition of good. We can be petty for someone’s good, so they could learn how to take blows or criticism from people. We can be hard on our loved ones so they know life isn’t an easy ride, to prepare them. Etc. But now, are we always good? Does our goodness/love depend on how people treat us or how they reciprocate our love and concern towards them? What truly makes us good and when do we truly exercise goodness?
I had to check myself when someone hurt me so bad, all I wanted was to cut them out of my life. I blocked them, deleted every number and contact I had with them. I was so mad and I cried alot. The funnest thing was I kept praying for them and asking God to be with them. I asked God to remove any bitterness from my heart because I realized it was hindering me and my relationships with other people. I even developed trust issues. Hurt and pain really changes someone. But when you choose to let all of that go, you allow yourself to grow and to choose love always.
Another incident was when I cared, loved and showed concern for someone and they weren’t appreciative or they didn’t reciprocate/resonate on the same level as me. I literally wanted to stop caring because they didn’t love or care for me as much as I did for them. I had to check myself again and I asked myself these questions:
- Am I loving to be loved back?
- Am I giving to receive back?
- Am I only good to people because they are good to me?
- Am I doing all those things for recognition? Validation?
- What are my real motives behind doing good or loving someone?
And it struck me. Most of the times we only love people because we want them to love us back or t least like us. We are only good to people because we expect them to return the favor somehow. We expect them to reward us for being good or for loving them. We need to feel our actions or whatever we are doing are good. And this is where we usually get hurt because we EXPECT way too much. But love is selfless. It gives freely.
The Bible says in Matthew 5: 43-48
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
We ought to love beyond our humans eyes,beyond the ones who are kind, beyond the ones who give. Our love has to break boundaries. Love people even when they hurt you. Love people even when they minimize you. Love people even though it is not easy, especially when it is not easy. Love beyond pain. Love because it is the greatest gift of all. You’ll be at peace. That type of love breaks all odds. Jesus loves you regardless of how many times you’ve sinned or fallen short of his grace. So Love like Him. Love without expectations. Love regardless
Hey guys, happy Sunday. Today I was reminded that I should love regardless of how I feel because Jesus loves me beyond my sins. We need to always care and love people even if they hurt us. No one is perfect so forgive and love as you will wish your Heavenly Father to forgive and love you. Stay blessed.